Shazwani Buddies

May 6, 2013

WHAT'S THE USE OF WORRYING?

Assalamualaikum.

 

Halo worriers peeps out there. How are you guys? Doing fine? Good.

Anyway, there is an interesting topic that I would like to share with all the readers. So, anyone know what is the use of worrying? Maybe some of you knew it. Maybe some is.. not. Let me tell you a little bit of explanation about worrying.

Worry is so common that it is tempting to ask whether it serves a useful function. One reason why it is so difficult to stop worrying is because one has a sneaking suspicion that some good may come of it, and this sneaking suspicion is hard to ignore. Even though we might say to ourselves and to other, ''Heyy.. stop worrying. It's pointless. It won't do any good.'' Or ''Worrying will get you nowhere''. There is still something compelling about the process that makes it hard to give up.

Worry: The danger signal.
Worry could alert you to the possibility that something is wrong such as ''That cough of yours has gone on much too long'' , ''The steering on this car feels odd.'' Ignoring these things could be unwise. Worry is useful if it makes you sit up and take notice. It is not useful to be paralyzed with fear, as you might be if you got carried away by your imagination. It is useful to have a red light that flashes but only if you do something to turn it off.

Worry: The action trigger.
Worry can goad you into action. It makes you fell bad until you do something about it, like starting to study before exam, or getting the cough or steering checked. You feel better when these things are done. Once again, worry is useful, provided it is turned into a strategy for action.

Worry: The coping rehearsal.
Worry can oil the coping machinery. It can provoke you into thinking about ''What you could do if....,'' or ''What would happen if.....,'' and so it can prepare you for appropriate action or adjustment. Prompted by feeling worried, you may be more likely to develop better studying skills, stop smoking or make arrangements to get your car regularly serviced.

Worry: The lesser of two evils.
Worrying about something is often rather a vague and unfocused process compared with having vivid and alarming images. It is like asking yourself, ''What is they have had an accident,'' when someone is late rather than imagining the horrors of the accident you fear. The things one can see with ones mind's eye can literally make one shudder and quake. But worrying can prevent the images coming, so doing it may be the preferred option, even though it keeps the worst terrors at bay at the cost of continued anxiety.


So, worry is therefore sometimes helpful, sometimes it makes you feel better or starts you thinking about how to cope. This may be what lies behind the superstitious aspects of worry - the feeling that ''unless I worry something bad will happen,'' or that ''worrying will prevent things going wrong.'' The grain of truth behind the superstitious lies in the potential value, or helpfulness, of a certain degree of worry in provoking strategies for action. Useful worry prompts action. All other worry is pointless.



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8 comments:

  1. For me, it's a good instinct if we can convert the worry feeling into a positive way. But not all of us can make it :)

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    1. yeah exactly, most peeps always think that worries is equal to negative way.. it can't be sometimes :D

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  2. Selalu2 tenangkan hati dengan mengingati Allah..inshaallah perasaan risau or sewaktu dgnnya xde la muncul sgt... :)

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    1. betul tu, jadi kerisauan tu takdelah terlalu membunuh jiwa..kan :)

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  3. I like the the first mind map!so helpful!!

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  4. bimbang/ takut tu lahir drp perasan was2 dalam diri dalam menentukan sesuatu. ehhh pandai lak aku hentam. mhahaha

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    1. ko memang pandai kalau bab memperkembangkan penerangan, ye dak? haha

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